After being separated for a little over a year, I was clear that divorce was the way to go. There was nothing left in the marriage to salvage.

Whether you want to stay friends with her is entirely up to the two of you and reasons for the rift. I couldn't see myself being friends with my wasband. I've known him since I was 18, and he will always be family but I need the distance for my own healing.

As far as the finances go, the fact that you recognize the implications is a good start. Although the law leans towards a 50-50 split, nothing stops you from being more generous in handling the finances if you wish to do so.

After your divorce, you will feel freer to pursue other relationships. I too say that I wouldn't want to get married again. With half my life ahead of me, I would like companionship/friendship/love/intimacy. There are many folks like this out there who would commit to a relationship without a marriage. Domestic partner and living apart together are gaining momentum.

It's a breath of fresh air to see a man articulate their vulnerabilities and thinking so clearly. Thank you for that!