Brenda, I am with you on that. During the separation process, my wasband came to me and asked if we could still be friends. I told him I was not ready to be friends, but maybe sometime in the future. It's been two years now and I am not ready. I am not sure if I will be ever ready. You hit the nail in the head about trust. You are supposed to feel safe with friends. I don't feel safe with him....and for someone who couldn't make me feel worthy and safe after knowing me for half my life, I doubt he can do that after a divorce.

Yes, good for people who can be friends and co-exist in the same space as their exes.......not me!