Can I relate to this post or what? Your hesitation (what you call overthinking) is completed warranted and speaks volumes to our upbringing. I can totally see your mom flipping out or scratching her head about why you had to make a change.

In my opinion, we are not changing their. mindsets anytime soon. I have given up on that. Best is to leave them out of your "love life" or expecting their acceptance unless you upgrade this relationship to the next level.