I am Free…… Free from the Rage

The destructive combination of anger and rage in a relationship

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I received an email from our mediator earlier in the week with an attachment of the Judgement of Divorce. “I hope this information sits well with both of you,” she wrote as she signed off in her email.

The email didn’t evoke any emotions at first. What I wanted to tell her was that it felt good to bring closure to the two-year process of separation and divorce, and this 21-year-old chapter of my life. But I didn’t. I thanked her for the information in my reply.

This morning I woke up with a sense of calmness.

I was filled with a sense of gratitude and the realization that I am free.

I am free from many things that bound me to my marriage for as long as they did. But most importantly, I am free……….. from the rage.

Anger versus Rage

Anger is an important emotion for all individuals. It’s a self-preservation mechanism to protect our sense of self. When there is something that bothers us, anger gives us a way to process what is happening and identify when something is not quite right and needs our attention.

Rage, on the other hand, is an extreme expression of anger. It is a retaliation to the anger…