I can feel your pain and angst in many ways as I've been in your shoes. I walked away when I came to the realization that in order for the marriage to work, both have to work on individual and couple goals. I also realized that we grew apart to want different things in life. I've had no regrets but there is sadness that we couldn't make things work.

Usually what we ask for are minor changes. Your list is not exhaustive and neither is it unrealistic. Try sharing this letter with your husband or your list with him and see if he will be amenable to work with you.