I couldn't agree with you more Charlie. I always liked children but except for the fact that I too would have kids one day, I didn't think too much about it. The one thing I did know was (based on my own experiences growing up with a guest father), I wanted a partner who would be present and co-parent with me. It didn't turn out to be true and I found myself over compensating and doing it all. That only led to resentment and not the joy of parenting.

I felt like I didn't have a choice to build my life alongside my kids, but now that they are older and I am divorced that's what I am focusing on - ME! I wish I had the opportunity to do that all along.

Thanks for sharing your thoughts.