I too have innumerable nights wondering why my husband wasn’t back home. In the earlier days it was to meet work deadlines, but it soon turned into drinking with his buds till the wee hours of the morning. Never could understand it. Coming back home at a decent hour to spend time with wife and kids was never seen as a meaningful thing to do, let alone make it a priority. I wonder what is it that I didn’t do? He wanted all the attention and validation which he got from outside the house because I was busy with kids?

The cop was right, and you can see that better in hindsight. It’s sad to think that we give so much to a relationship and not be understood.