I wonder how we fall into that trap and I often wonder what my emotional needs were at that time to endure that kind of behavior. I remember coming back home from winning a doubles tennis match. My wasband asked me who my partner was, and then said she was a great player. Wait, are you telling me we won because of her? Anyways, yes it is important to share these stories as I didn't think it was abuse until I saw the after effects of what it did to my soul. That's a good reason why I can't get myself to be "friends" yet. I am not sure I ever will.