In retrospect, I think my marriage lasted as long as it did because of all the living apart together we did in the initial years in completing our education and building our careers. I used to find it difficult to adjust to being together in the weekend after being away during the week. It was like turning a switch on and off every week. That was also when I was fully responsible for the children and he would show up like a visitor.

Now that I am divorced, I like the idea of LAT as a model for future relationships.