Interesting piece for sure. I think we are so naive on what is expected of us. I bet it took her as long or longer to learn about you.

Betty Dodson wrote a book - Orgasms for Two. In that she talks about the education that two individuals need to go through to learn about what works for them and educate the other on how to pleasure them. Like you said, porn does a disservice as a teaching tool. Live and Learn, I guess!