It was refreshing to read about divorce recovery from a man's point of view. Thank you for sharing your journey. I think both genders go through grief and personal development after a divorce. We tend to become to complacent in our longterm marriages, taking each other for granted and being resistant to making the small changes needed to stay connected. I've stopped looking at divorce as a failed marriage, and instead focus on the fact that we grow and possibly outgrow each other and divorce becomes a step that needs to be taken to end that relationship.