James - you've captured the essence of dating in the 40's in the best possible way. I'm with you on all the brilliant points you've made. In my case, I've NEVER really dated. Not even when I was 20 yrs and met my ex-husband. We started off as really good friends and next thing you know we were in love and married. Here I am at 45, divorced with two teenage kids and entered the dating scene. I'm savouring the present with no real outlook for the future. Thanks for sharing your .thoughts.