Kiki - you are not alone. In the globalized world we live in, we’ve chosen to move away from home for various reasons. It’ sucks when we are the sandwich generation with aging parents and children to care for. The guilt can be consuming. I don’t think we are selfish, but it’s a problem each of us will have to navigate in the best way that works for us. Traveling to India three times in the span of six months when my dad was in the hospital was not fun, but found a way to do it. The thought of repeating the same for my mother someday and then cleaning up her apartment keeps me up at night.