Laura, you speak on behalf of so many women who have had similar experiences. I do believe if two people wanted to work things out, then it can be done. But that takes so much of effort, dedication, and inner work to make that happen. I begged my husband to do some individual therapy so it would help us too, but he wasn't willing to make the effort. I didn't want to be the one making all the changes and losing myself in the process, there's no point in living such a life. Things happen for the better. I too fell the loss of the family unit and the togetherness I had envisioned for the future. But I am hopeful I will find it someday.