Lee, I started out to date looking it at from a pragmatic point of view as well. It's just another way to meet someone and I agree that it should start as a friendship. But I think when we do meet someone who seems like a potential, there is tendency to project and invest a bit more of ourselves emotionally than we would like. I don't know how to explain it but it's like you put aside your rational self and the romantic in you conjures things that are not present. Does that make sense?