Melissa - you have a very balanced take on the topic, especially for those who have been dating since their 20s and are single into their 30s and 40s. Some of us have been married or in serious relationships and now find ourselves in a whole new world in our 40s. It's tough either way, and the older we get the easier it is to say that we are better off on our own and go through the head- and heartaches of finding a man.