Oh Colleen, I feel ya sista. Mine was ten years in the making too. Why do we wait so long? I think as women we are conditioned to hold it together and have this sense of responsibility to make things work to keep the family together. We think about everybody else other than our needs, and in the process we risk becoming someone we are not. I hated the person I had become to survive in this relationship, and the day I started looking at myself in the mirror, I knew I needed to bolt. I am slowly finding myself and I am happy that my friends see a happier and a new me too.