Oh my…from a writing standpoint you knocked this out of the ballpark. I wish I had as much skill in putting thoughts into words.
I’ve thought a lot about being attracted to my wasband even though he had some rough edges. I didn’t want a smoker but yet made accommodations for him. My friends said he was abrasive… but cute me thought he was nice to me so all is well……immaturity, stupidity, nativity….you name it, but there is something truth to the corollary of what you said - need the bad boy to bring out bad side to me….because I was so good all along? Who knows!!