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Qualities You Want in a Future Partner — Can you Make a List?
The power of list-making in gaining clarity in thought and action
I was with a friend from grad school this past summer, in the middle of nowhere in Michigan, on our way to a reunion. I saw an older couple walking with their hands locked in with each other.
That sight tugged at my heart. I pointed to that couple and told my friend I longed for that kind of physical touch and affection — to hold hands with my partner and walk around town.
Did I have that in my marriage? Yes, a little bit. My wasband was conscious of public displays of affection, but we would lock our little pinky fingers and walk around when on vacation. This was before the relationship turned south and the distance (both physical and emotional) grew between us.
I wasn’t interested in jumping from one relationship to another after my divorce. I took the time to find myself again. To find the person that had buried her true self to become a person that needed to survive in a relationship.
I wrote, and wrote, and wrote through the self-healing and self-discovery journey post divorce.
Journaling is a powerful tool in speaking your truth and gaining clarity of feelings and emotions.
