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Revisiting Trauma with Children
It never really leaves you, it just takes a different shape in your memory
I know I said I was done rehashing the past and writing about the heavy stuff from my failed marriage and divorce, but I find that the trauma comes back in different shapes forcing me to revisit it all over again.
It took me a while to acknowledge my wasband’s anger and rage and its destructive role in my marriage. It was one of the top three reasons why I wanted out. I even wrote about it last year after I heard that my divorce was final.
Children as collateral damage
My children are getting older and my daughter is now adult age. She came home from college for the holidays. When we were at a restaurant, she was recounting all the different restaurants at which she was publicly humiliated by her father with harsh words.
She wondered why her younger brother never had the same kind of treatment. I thought a little bit more about that question.
