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Status Check Two Years Post-Separation and Divorce
The importance of embracing all emotions that hit us
It’s been two years since I signed a separation agreement, which I initiated after 19 years of being married to a man I’d known for more than half my life. We are divorced now, but making the decision to end the marriage did not come easily. It was almost ten years in the making.
I’ve come a long way in my journey of self-healing and processing all those years in the marriage: the reasons for its demise and my role in it all, the reasons why I stayed for as long as I did, and the reasons why I chose to leave.
Out of court
One of the things that I did not think through in much depth or detail was what would be of me financially when I made the decision. No, I wasn’t the “breadwinner” of the family but I worked full-time. I had to have faith in my abilities to find a way to make it work.
I didn’t want a fight and neither did I want to put the children through the wringer with a long-drawn divorce proceeding. I am thankful that my wasband cooperated to take the mediation route. It was painful nevertheless, but it was relatively quick and civil.
By law, I am entitled to 50 percent of my marital earnings. There was no fight for more. I wasn’t…
