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The Realization When your Children Behave like your Ex
An unplanned agenda item in a divorce
It’s going to be two years since my separation from my husband. A separation that I initiated after 19 years of marriage. A judge has been assigned to the uncontested divorce and we await our papers in the mail.
My children are in a routine with the 80–20 co-parenting arrangement. I have the children for the 80. They spend two weekends (4 days) of the month with their father and some predetermined holidays and school breaks. This is when I get my “me time” to socialize and do the things I can do for myself.
I am beginning to find myself again. My emotions are stabilizing and I feel like I am in a good place. The future is looking bright with lots of potential and opportunities.
I see a change
All is going well, until……. I noticed a change in both my kids. Something that wasn’t there before. I shouldn’t be shocked, but I am.
One day, I shared a picture as a text message with both my kids. One of them responded, “CoolA” to indicate that they liked the photo.
The other day my son wanted something and he texted, “Please Babush” with the folded hands emoji. He then thanked me saying, “Romba thanks ma.”
