Yes, agree and we need all 5 in equitable amounts. I can relate to your example of the 9-5 partner (my ex). I tried to stay understanding and flexible and assumed 98% of the parenting responsibilities. But I had some basic needs that go beyond the love languages....and seep into the realm of unmet nurturance which I wasn't getting. No amount of expensive gifts could replace the need for quality time/ affection/ attention/ physical touch. I don't think I had anything left in me to stay flexible beyond the 19 years that I did.