You call it sparkles and I called it glimmers! That's all we can hope for from one day to another.

Unlike you and Colleen, I had a full-time job all along, albeit one that didn't bring in as much money in comparison to what my corporate spouse was making. I didn't get a pass on any of the "home maker" duties as I did it all! I still felt devalued and taken for granted. Lots of hours of unpaid labor that continues after divorce with full parenting responsibility.

We were living a lifestyle that he could afford. It's not the financial independence that gets me. I am divorced and I now see how far my paycheck will take me each month. The part that I say, WTF I was thinking is about the complete lack of financial literacy. I didn't know head or tail about where all the money went or the investments.

With the 50-50 split in divorce, I was at a loss to make sense of what I received. Am I going to be okay in a few years when the piddly support ends? Can I afford to buy a place of my own when we sell this house? Can I afford rent? I can't afford to live in this zipcode beyond when my kids graduate from high school. Where do I go? I get sleepless night thinking about all of it.

So my advise to women will be to become financially literate: a) understand where all the money is, and b) learn about investing and saving.